Fall 2022 Unit 3 Lecture Content

 

1. Pattern Interruption Techniques: Communication + ACB Pathway

 

 TAKEAWAY:

HOMEWORK:

  • Workbook Pages 13-14
  • Lecture Slide Pages 18-19 + 21
  • Schedule Second Office Hours Call [on facilitator scheduling page under Member's Access]

    2. Communication Football + Source Belief Patterns  

    OBJECTIVE: 

    In this lecture Bizzie breaks down the moving pieces that make up communication. Our goal is to become more aware of our perception and how we communicate that to others. Often when we initially attempt to replace red cones with green, we swing to the complete opposite side of how we’ve been communicating which simply results in another red cone. Here we learn how to represent ourselves and communicate authentically with green cones through understanding how we are communicating to others. This lecture has many reminders and reviews previous concepts we’ve learned

    TAKEAWAY:

    Communication is made of goals, assumptions, intentions + motives, expectation, and styles. When you communicate, imagine you are trying to throw a football to another person. Ideally we want the other person to catch the football and throw it back to us and play a game of giving and receiving. However, there are a variety of problems with these interactions because we often don’t communicate that we’re throwing the football, who we are throwing it to, or throw it in a way that could ever be caught. So if we think of communication like a football, step one would be showing and telling the person that you’re going to throw the ball and where you’re going to throw it so that they have a better chance of catching the ball. After they catch it, they have to do the same to throw the ball back to you. But we often don’t set this process up correctly. Sometimes we pretend we’re not going to throw the football then quickly grab it and spike it at them. We need to understand the ways we’re incorrectly throwing the ball so that we can correct them. What is your intent or motive for throwing the ball? Is the motive perpetuating your Emotional Addiction Cycle and Source Beliefs? What are your faulty assumptions? Is your goal clearly defined and articulated to the other person? Or are you hiding the ball and suddenly chucking it at them and getting angry at them for not catching it? Have you helped the person understand your expectations? It’s important to own up to these behaviors so that we can adjust them. 

     

      HOMEWORK:

    • Workbook Pages 3-12
    • Watch Small Group Session 4

     

     
    3. Maybe it is You
    OBJECTIVE: This lecture is focused on how we can take responsibility for our own behavior even when we are aware that it was triggered by somebody else. This concept is kryptonite for people that struggle with justice league or feeling like things are unjust. Hold it all together patterns seem to take responsibility naturally but do it in a way that builds resentment and is therefore not truly taking responsibility. No matter what your pattern is, we all need to equip ourselves with the correct tools to take radical personal responsibility. It is ultimately one of the hardest things for human beings to do but it is the thing that creates the most long lasting and sustainable change with relationships and communication.

    TAKEAWAY:  Instead of looking at things as YOURS or MINE, we have to figure out what role we play in the cycle. This way we can figure out where we can break the chains of this pattern. This will bring the relationship out of dysfunction. 

    HOMEWORK:

    • Lecture Slide Page 12

     

    4. Toxic Relationships + Gaslighting

    OBJECTIVE:

    What is a toxic relationshipWhat are the toxic relationship types? What causes toxicity in relationshipsMechanisms of toxicity - how is the experience created? What is gaslighting and what’s really behind it?  The Other Side - Am I Taking Crazy Pills? How to shift the cycle to establish if the relationship is worth saving. Communication and boundaries that shift the conversation instead of set off the toxic cycle

     

     

    TAKEAWAY:

    Toxic relationships are typically reflective of where we are needing to grow. On the other side of toxicity is a chance to take radical personal responsibility to learn how to not act out of coping mechanism but instead truth.

    HOMEWORK:

    No additional homework

     

    5. Food + Sex 

    OBJECTIVE:

    Because food and sex are two naturally occurring human needs, often students do not think about how they are a part of your emotional pattern. This lecture looks at how food and sex impact our internal physiology, our emotional experience, and our energetic body and how once those are affected, they continue to reinforce us to behave in a certain way in our external environment perpetuating the cycle of doom.

    TAKEAWAY:

    Food and sex are two common ways the emotional addiction cycle plays out. Disordered eating and sexual behavior were redefined for us during this lecture + were a wake up call for what behaviors are connected to our patterns. Many of our food and sexual cravings come from lack of clear identity and creative expression. For most people, they crave disordered eating / snacking and potentially destructive / self-sabotaging sexual behaviors when this is not being expressed. When you crave food, snacks, or destructive sexual behavior- what messages are firing in your brain? What are the low-level signals your brain is sending you that likely have to do with your source belief +  source emotion? Remember, many of us use food + sex to feel loved, feel safe, feel in control, stop boredom, + make us feel pleasure to combat the pain. We can use these behaviors to get to our source belief or use our source belief as a vehicle to the behaviors.

     

    HOMEWORK:

    These assignments should be completed on blank sheets of paper. They are not included in your workbook:

    • How do you use food? What does it mean to you? [ love, control, pleasure, calm, distraction, reward, override message ] Write a Food Behaviors list.
    • When your source belief is activated, what does your food behavior look like? How are these things tied together?
    • How do your sex behaviors tie to your source belief?

     

    BONUS UPDATED LECTURE: Psych Disorders, Aug 25th

     


    6. BREAK Parenting Lecture [Important for Everyone; even those without Children]

    OBJECTIVE:

    This lecture is critical for everyone; even those without children! To understand how we parent [ or will parent ] we have to understand how we were parented through the BREAK lens. This lecture dives into your parent's chakra imbalances + patterns to help you understand the impact that had on you.

    Bizzie dives into how common imbalances manifest. Just as we become patterned chemically with what we perceive happens to us, we also approach parenting on a similar autopilot until we bring a new level of consciousness to our default chakra-influenced style.

    TAKEAWAY:

    Input = Output.

    Parents' actions, choices, emotional intelligence, affection, organization, + overall feeling of safety are inputs that create the outputs of the child's definitions, beliefs, assumptions + rules created to teach them how to engage with inputs + formulate actions / choices / emotional intelligence, etc. 

    This lecture isn’t meant to make you feel guilty for what’s transpired. This is 100% meant to help you SEE what’s going on, WHY and give you simple tools to start course correcting immediately.

    See your interactions, communication patterns, behaviors and emotional responses for what they are and stop judging them. Acknowledge with acute honesty and figure out ALL the ways they play out in your parenting and start the process of sustainable change.

     

    HOMEWORK:

    Lecture Slides Pages 23-26 

     

    7. Parenting Keystones
    OBJECTIVE: This lecture is more for people with children. If you do not have children you can skip this lecture if you'd like. This lecture discusses the keystones of parenting, teaching ELI + other tools to children, and how to navigate societal peer pressure.

    TAKEAWAY: It's common that kids have trust issues with you. Open up the conversation to find out what things about your parenting style make your kids feel unsafe or unheard. Take this information seriously and don't get defensive. Create activities that help re-establish trust.

    HOMEWORK:  No Additional Homework

     

    8. Compassion Fatigue: How to Prioritize Self-Care Without the Onset of Guilt

    OBJECTIVE: This session introduces the concept of SOUL-fishness - a driving force that allows caregivers to nourish their souls in order to continue serving those in need. Societally, we are taught that we only have two options: selfishness or selflessness. Many of us mistakenly run ourselves into the ground in an effort to avoid being labeled as selfish or because we subconsciously believe that martyrdom proves our commitment to the task at hand. We’ve all heard the phrase - “you can’t pour water from an empty cup,” yet many of us in service to those in need find ourselves unable to establish healthy boundaries to care for ourselves. This session will teach caregivers how to prioritize self-care and establish boundaries to avoid burnout.

    TAKEAWAY: We have a limited supply of energy available within our physical + energetic body + our relationships. In order to prevent compassion fatigue we need to get clear on why we have chosen this path or why this path chose us. This is essential to align with soulfish energetic giving + receiving. 

    Additionally, remember that mechanisms of self-sabotage will be actively working against you in your attempt to prioritize self-care. We need to get clear on these before they happen.
    Finally, remember that self-care doesn’t need to be full of bubble baths and massages. Instead it often looks like knowing what your needs are + not being afraid to voice them, being mindful of who you plug your energy into, managing your time with integrity to not burn yourself out, maintaining healthy eating + sleeping habits to lower your baseline stress level, asking for outside help when it’s needed + not feeling ashamed, taking personal responsibility for your actions in the present + forgiving yourself for what you didn’t do right in the past, knowing when your passion + purpose is no longer aligned with your work and not being afraid to change course when it’s time, being aware of how your source belief contributes to perceived stress at work so you can bring more logic and peace to your day, and being fully present in the moment so you disconnect when you are not in the care giving exchange.
    HOMEWORK:
    No additional homework

     

    9. Brain Pattern Constellations

    OBJECTIVE: This lecture goes over how each concept in BREAK Method links together. The golden arches of hamster wheel doom describes the exact pathway that we navigate through our brain patterns. We start with our Origin Emotion ACBs which trigger our Origin Source Belief. Our Origin Source Belief ACBs trigger our Protective Emotion ACBs which trigger our Adaptive Source Belief ACBs which trigger our F*** it Emotion ACBs. Your brain is firing these things in a very specific order of Emotion, Belief, Emotion, Belief, Emotion. Our primary chakra imbalance is taking place during the swing from Origin to Protective Emotion. As you move and engage from your primary imbalance to your secondary imbalance, you will be going through Origin Emotion, Origin Source Belief, + landing back down at your Protective Emotion. When you move from Protective Emotion to Adaptive Source Belief and back down at your F*** it Emotion, that is when you are oscillating with your tertiary imbalances. 
    The hamster wheel of doom also fits in with your 5 dominos:
    Domino 1 = Origin Emotion
    Domino 2 = Origin SB
    Domino 3 = Protective Emotion
    Domino 4 = Adaptive SB
    Domino 5 = F*** It Emotion

     

    BIG TAKEAWAY:
    The ACB Pathway: Origin Emotion ACBs -> Origin SB ACBs -> Protective Emotion ACBs -> Adaptive SB ACBs -> F*** It Emotion ACBs.
    Remember that your assumption is your snapshot assessment -> what is going to happen? Your conclusion is -> what am I going to do about that? The conclusion serves as a bridge to inform the next ACB pathway. Many times when formulating ACBs you'll try to blend assumption and conclusion together. It's important to unwind these because a key aspect of rewiring is understanding where exactly you are at in the process so that you know how to get yourself out. Each point on the map has very specific ELI questions to utilize, so if you don't know where you are, then you won't know how to properly rewire in that moment.
    HOMEWORK:
    • Lecture Slide Page 12 [ this page needs to be ready for Office Hours Call ]
    10. LIVE Q+A, Sept 8th

     

    11. The Misconception of Ego

    OBJECTIVE: Bizzie describes what she believes the Ego is in comparison to other common definitions used in today's culture. This lecture is focused on the how the Ego can potentially be perceived as a distorted version of our true selves because of how our brain patterns influence and warp the true soul as it is attempting to shine through. This could also be described as your personality. BREAK helps you understand the distortion so that you can be more authentic in your personality and express your true self.

     

    BIG TAKEAWAY: Your personality isn't static; it can be adjusted to more authentically communicate your true soul. Personality traits are not positive or negative; they are simply perceived on a spectrum identified as positive or negative terms. For instance, one person may perceive something as aggressive while another person sees the same trait as determined. To convey our true soul, we have to do our part to be aware of how our personality distortion prevents people from understanding and seeing us the way we really want. This in turn impacts our ability to connect to + trust other human beings.

    HOMEWORK:

    No additional homework

     

    12. Obstacle or Opportunity

    OBJECTIVE: This session will help the audience assess the lens with which they perceive the world around them and with it the pain, suffering and obstacles they experienceHow we define our experience in times of adversity either propels us to success and the cultivation of confidence or tears us down and feeds our biggest fears of inadequacy. Prepare to take a peek under the hood of your belief system and learn simple tools to create rapid growth instead of putting your life on repeat.

     

    TAKEAWAY: The only thing that differentiates a successful person from a failure is the DEFINITION they associated with an obstacle or challenge. The successful person let the obstacle push them to find new iterations or ideas to overcome. The failure made the obstacle personal and allowed their emotional patterns make them quit. Remember if you make a 100% commitment, tap into courage to overcome obstacles, and choose not to define obstacles as failures, you will find successful outcomes and learn that confidence is a skill you can repeat anytime -not an innate characteristic.

    HOMEWORK:

    Workbook Pages 15-16

     

    13. Cultivating Confidence

    OBJECTIVE: In order to cultivate confidence, you have to commit to something. This lecture goes over how to develop big goals and what constitutes a big goal. If we don’t quantify what we want or where we want to be going, our brain can become stagnant, anxious, + hopeless. After we quantify what we want, that is the movement our brain can have all of its fears come true. This is why many people avoid goal setting. In this lecture Bizzie describes how your source belief prevents or sabotages you from setting and achieving goals.

     

    TAKEAWAY:  Setting big life goals is important for fulfilling passion, purpose, and direction. To give these goals life we need to get them into the real, physical world to put them into a reasonable order of operations. Our source beliefs are tied to common patterns and obstacles that we encounter when setting goals and attempting to bring them into reality. It’s important to define what the obstacles are likely to be and then remind ourselves what fuel sources will help us navigate the hurdles. If we can’t do this, then that’s when the obstacle is turned into a failure instead. Fulfilling goals need passion + purpose to have the proper fuel and motivation to navigate the obstacles. Extracting the common theme from your childhood can point you towards this passion + purpose.

    After sparking your passion + purpose, we need to figure out what exactly a ‘big goal’ is versus an ‘incremental [ or ribbon cutting ] goal’ and how your source belief pattern may be influencing your goal setting. When choosing big goals, make sure to ask: are they big enough? Are they limited by my source belief? Are they limited by other people’s potential perception of me? Are they limited by my ACB pathway? Bizzie goes over big goal setting exercises in the workbook that runs through all of these concepts. This exercise will show you what anchors + accelerators need to be addressed, what self-sabotage mechanism is most likely to block you, + what environmental factors play the most negative roles in your emotional well being. Answering these questions shows you where you need to dig extra deep on your Blueprint.

    HOMEWORK:

    Workbook Pages 17-27  

     

    14. Staying the Course: How We Rationalize Imbalance After Break

    OBJECTIVE: It’s important to look at and determine how you fit into a larger picture of humanity, what your views are, and how you want to connect or disconnect from spirituality because these are guiding points. If you don’t acknowledge your current belief system, then you can let these things undo a lot of your hard work you’ve done in BREAK. For instance, how does your view of the world / humanity / the unknown influence your goals and outlook? This lecture poses some of these existential questions, including what do you currently believe about these things and is there a bigger picture source belief behind those beliefs?

     

    TAKEAWAY: Your chakra imbalance pattern can be used to determine how you are likely going to rationalize your imbalance after BREAK through things like sex, fantasy / future fixation, spirituality, social duty / social justice, martyrdom / volunteer work / charity, being and empath or HSP. You should leave this lecture with examples of how you are likely to rationalize your imbalance based on your chakra imbalance and the information Bizzie described for each. Remember, truth can be used as a weapon. Social justice can be used to perpetuate chaos. Sex can be used to make you feel victimized. Volunteer work and charity can be used to make you feel burnt out. Spirituality and religion can be used as an escape. Empathy can make you avoid dealing with your own issues. Just because your association with the word or action is positive- doesn’t mean you can’t turn it against yourself and rationalize why it’s ok. Learn the defining lines and proceed with caution.

    HOMEWORK:

    The Big Picture Workbook [ found on downloadable documents page ]

    15. If You Haven't Had Your BREAKTHROUGH YET... LISTEN UP!  

    OBJECTIVE: This lecture is geared toward helping you understand, what BREAK is, what BREAK isn’t, and what path lies ahead with clarity to calm any anxiety you may be feeling about the completion of the semester. It is almost time to fly solo; but there is no need to freak out. This should be a time that is exciting because it is now time to take the strategy we’ve been building and put it into action in the 30 days after your Exit Interview. Your Exit Blueprint is where we gather the strategy to help you rewire in those 30 days.

    TAKEAWAY: You shouldn’t be freaking out at this point because now this is your chance to put everything you’ve learned into action, inspire the people around you, and change your life forever. You now have the opportunity to live your life in a way that’s in direct opposition to your brain patterning. The golden arches of hamster wheel doom from the Brain Constellations lecture is how you’ve been living your life since the beginning. Now it’s your job to be so aware of what those oscillations look like, what assumptions go with those, what conclusions go with those, what behaviors go with those, and how to interrupt every single point. Leave no stone unturned so that when you go into the 30 day rewire you know exactly how your brain is going to pull you back in and you’re prepared, knowing exactly what to do and when. If you’ve been doing the work, you’re prepared and the information is there for you. BREAK is a well packed parachute, but you have to jump for it to deploy. After this lecture you should understand how the 30 day rewire works and what you need in order to graduate. As you prepare for the next phase, don’t forget your BREAK basics. Ultimately, stop making excuses. Stop allowing fear and anxiety of what happens next, disable you. This is the most exciting moment of your life- full of potential energy, logic, clarity, and alignment with purpose.

    HOMEWORK:

    Finish any previous assignments you haven't completed

    16. Ribbon Cutting Dates  

    OBJECTIVE: Ribbon cutting dates are incremental commitments that rewire your origin + adaptive source beliefs. This lecture goes over what you SHOULDN’T do when creating incremental goals then compares what you SHOULD be doing when creating these goals. Bizzie goes into these things in detail, provides examples, and discusses how they would tie into your source beliefs.

     

    TAKEAWAY: By the end of this lecture you should understand how to create Ribbon cutting or Incremental Goals that will work to disprove your source beliefs.

    HOMEWORK:

    • Workbook Pages 28-34
    • Watch Small Group Session 5
    • Schedule Office Hours Call 3

    17. Exit Interview + Blueprint Prep

    OBJECTIVE: This lecture takes you through the Exit Blueprint Packet page by page. Bizzie calls out some things to pay attention to, provides examples, and answers questions.

      

    TAKEAWAY: By the end of this lecture you should understand how to complete your Exit Blueprint Packet, what is needed to graduate the course, and how to submit your Exit Packet to your facilitator. Remember, there are ‘How To’ videos on your Important Updates portal page showing you how to type on a document and how to use a scanner app to send your packet to your facilitator AS 1 FILE. Please utilize those videos for this process.

    HOMEWORK:
  • Complete your Exit Blueprint Packet
  • Schedule any remaining office hours appointments needed
  • Schedule your Exit Interview
  • Email your Blueprint Packet to your facilitator AT LEAST 48 hours before your scheduled appointment as 1 file
  • ATTEND YOUR EXIT INTERVIEW + GRADUATE!
  • After graduating, Unit 4 will open on your portal.